3 Signs Your Social Media Shout is a Whisper image Bad boy ClubEvery other week I like to remind you that you’re being  a social media wuss. And, by wuss, I mean  you’re being too much of a social media “nice guy.” And by “nice guy” I mean  you’re spending too much time worrying about what others think to the point of  turning your entire social media marketing campaign into a milquetoast and pablum sandwich.  You spend too much time trying to get everyone to like you. You’re always afraid  of stepping on toes or offending anyone. You’re especially afraid of getting  fired. If you’re honest with yourself, that’s your biggest fear: losing your job  if you’re an employee or losing (or alienating) your clients (or prospects) by  doing something as revolutionary as having a voice, an opinion, an agenda, or a  point-of-view. Heaven forbid.

If you don’t have any champions…

You as a brand shouldn’t be a one-man-band. The online world is (and has  always been) a conversation. The Internet is a collaboration. The social mediasphere is a two-way-street. And if you’re speaking to  yourself alone in your social media room, you’re doing something wrong.

3 Signs Your Social Media Shout is a Whisper image 1991 Bad Boy Brands 300x153What are you doing wrong? Are you boring? Are you  afraid? Are you insecure? Are you derivative? Do you create unique and  compelling content or do you just repeat, retweet, and reshare the hard work of  others? Are you a unique source or are you a repeater? Are you a soloist or just  another face in the choir? Cowboy up and audition for the solo.

Even better, why don’t you write your own music? Become a social media  composer? Well, at the very least, learn how to project your voice to the back  of the hall! Learn to use your diaphragm and get some volume.

Even if you have nothing to actually say, say it loudly and with confidence.  Loud and proud always wins if you never leave the choir. Not everyone’s meant to  become a soloist, a composer, or a conductor.

If you don’t have any enemies…

3 Signs Your Social Media Shout is a Whisper image badboy1kp5 300x261If you’re willing to compel the attention of the  spotlight, you’re going to have critics. If you don’t, you’re not saying  anything. You may not actually be dull but you’re being a dullard online. You’re  not even being a dullard worthy of bullying or mocking, you’re being a Gray Man. “A gray man?” you ask: “The gray man is someone who can walk through a crowd, be seen by  everyone, but remembered by nobody because nothing about them stands out.” The  gray man is a concept taken from survivalism. The belief states that being  invisible is better for survival than running around brandishing assault rifles  and a big fancy 4X4. Cool, right?

Being a gray man may well be dandy for keeping alive in a post-apocalyptic  deathscape, but being an invisible wallflower is antithetical to what you’re  supposed to be doing on behalf of your brand, your company, your boss, your  products, and your services.

Yes, I know you love social media because you’re naturally bookish,  introverted, and a little anti-social (which is why you’re so good at social)  but you’re now in content marketing, social media marketing, and digital  marketing — and marketing is a subset of selling and sales requires that you  beat the band, get out there, and break through the chaff, the ack ack — that  you’re able to go from your librarian’s whisper to Whitman’s “barbaric yawp over  the rooftops of the world!” Repeat after me: “Yawp!” Ok, once again, “YAWP!” Much better.

3 Signs Your Social Media Shout is a Whisper image BAD badboy3If at least a few people a month don’t even care enough  to slag, slander, hate on, or flame you enough to make you a little nervous,  then you’re not yawping very well, you’re not being authentic enough.

The reason why everyone hates a nice guy is because the nice guy is often  kind of a jerk. He spends so much time doing things he hopes and prays you’ll  find appealing that he’s essentially a liar. He’s a liar because he’s fine being “just friends” even though he’s in love with you; he’s inauthentic because he’s  not being himself and he’s got one hell of an unfulfilled agenda that moves  further and further away; and the nice guy’s even dangerous because the rift  between what he wants and who he is and how he’s acting, behaving, and being is  infused with frustration and disappointment — and that can be volatile. People  really do want to know you better — stop being such a bifurcated putz.

If nobody unfollows you…

We keep on talking about acquiring followers, Likes, friends, and fans. We’re  obsessed with it. We’re also super-afraid of being unfollowed. If you’re never  being unfollowed, unliked, bozo-filtered, banned, blacklisted, spam-boxed, or  tarred-and-feathered, you’re probably not pushing hard enough. I don’t mean you  need to bash people over the head — you can win with charm, playfulness, smarts,  humor, entertainment, or even je ne sais quoi.

But one thing you need to do is maybe message a little more than you do. Or  choose a side. Or have an opinion that is a little more controversial and risky  than glib beauty pageant aspirations for world  peace.

3 Signs Your Social Media Shout is a Whisper image cartoon bad boy navy1 300x289(Ok, I thought I should mention just about now that I  am being a little extreme. I want you to increase your volume:  frequency-of-tweets, boldness of voice, directness-of-intent, and something even  scarier and more intimidating: what do you want from your followers? What do you  need from them? How would you like them to help you?

In a perfect world where you actually got your heart’s intent, what would all  your social media profiles, handles, Walls, channels, etc., be doing for you?  Would they be adding bottom line to your revenue? Would they result in more  donations to your cause? Would they be buying, buying, buying from your awesome eCommerce site?

Remember this: you can kiss your followers! They’ve already admitting to  having a crush on you. There’s no reason in God’s green earth why they would be  following, liking, and subscribing to you otherwise, right? You’re not going to  lean over, your eyes closed, and get a cheek. Come on, you’re already an  item!

And really, the only reason why anyone would unfollow you is because they  just don’t think that this is the right relationship. That this match wasn’t  made in heaven and they’re going to look some more. It’s not you, it’s me; it’s  not me, it’s you — whatever.

Churn’s a good thing. I mean it. If your followership is stagnant, it’s  because so are you.

So, you’re really not even risking anything, are you? If they’re already into  you, you can come from a place of power, of leadership, and of control — but in  a good, supportive way.

You don’t need to fear rejection because your friends, followers, and  subscribers have already made the first move. Yes, I know that doesn’t make it  any easier, but you’ll never make it around all the bases and get a home run if  you don’t start with a first kiss. (Ok, that analogy has more than played out — I can just hear all of the unfollows, dislikes, unsubscribes that I am getting  right now as we spiel.) But, at the end of the day, the reason why everyone  likes bad boys is because they take what they want, they speak their mind, they  don’t apologize, and they stand their ground!

While I don’t necessarily recommend that much aggression be dumped into your  social media platforms, I do agree with one thing: the stereotypical bad boy  certainly gets what he wants because he knows what he wants and he lets people  know in a very clear, easy-to-parse and easy-to-understand way. Even though he  may well be bad, he’s not duplicitous and you never (ever) need to read his mind  to know what he’s after. He’s willing to raise his voice and become the center  of attention — he’s even willing to make a scene when there’s no other choice — and so should you.

Never has the mediasphere been more noisy, competitive, or easy-to-access in  the history of mankind — you’re going to need to be willing to shamelessly and  fearlessly draw some attention to yourself to draw attention to your brand or  corporate mission.

Good luck, knight — I wish you good luck on your quest.




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